tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post4731206464285707284..comments2022-11-21T03:50:05.720-05:00Comments on What a long strange trip it is!: When it's time to say goodbye . . .Samantha Shantihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-11677871090070582482009-03-11T22:57:00.000-04:002009-03-11T22:57:00.000-04:00You make some great points here, and it's a conver...You make some great points here, and it's a conversation I've had with her before. She's still obsessing about the act. I and her sisters have been trying to get her to understand how important it is to stop acting and live, but she's never heard that.<BR/><BR/>Sounds like you were lucky too, so many women have to spend incredible amounts of time "practicing" but have complained how tiring that constant acting can be.<BR/><BR/>I've tried time and again to point out that if they let go of the act, and give themselves room to learn, grow, and be it will stop being a troublesome act.<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad that you are having success, that's priceless!Samantha Shantihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-83519476488852435022009-03-11T01:57:00.000-04:002009-03-11T01:57:00.000-04:00I like your epiphany, but I have another possibili...I like your epiphany, but I have another possibility for that list.<BR/> I assume that everyone is going to know about my past and that they will either be OK with it, or at least be civil toward me when I deal with them on some level. So far that's been working for me. I don't know if they see my past when they see me now, or if I "pass" as the saying goes, but I haven't had any problems with other people about my presentation, at least not yet. I don't know, it may be that I'm just being myself, not putting on an act, and they see the female me, it does seem to come naturally to me. So many people where I live know my background, but they still treat me like a human being.<BR/> I understand your need to separate yourself from your friend, there's so much negative energy coming from her, and it's easy to get sucked into that, fighting it off to stay positive yourself is very tiring after a while. Sometimes you just have to do what's best to protect yourself from that abyss, especially when you know that you can't help them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-55390553068774348982009-03-11T00:51:00.000-04:002009-03-11T00:51:00.000-04:00Yeah, it is a great term. I first heard it from m...Yeah, it is a great term. I first heard it from my sister about one of her friends who'd transitioned from male to female. They'd known each other since school, and their relationship was strained past breaking when her friend became a gender nazi. Always focused on gender, pronouns and becoming offensively militant about it.<BR/><BR/>In my friend's case, her existing paranoid delusions closly coupled to the fact that transitioned as well, has her certain the world thinks she's a freak and always picking on her. As if that wasn't bad enough, she's somewhat OCD about the whole thing and has this unrealistic stereotype image of women that well, just isn't real. So she's always on the warpath, correcting everyone, and telling them how they don't measure up and so forth.<BR/><BR/>She's just completely out of touch with reality, constantly obsessing about how people are out to get her, consider her and it, or some sort of fetishistic male, or whatever problem of the day she's come up with. She's forever telling people what losers they are, and how no-one is real and on and on.<BR/><BR/>It's so tiring.<BR/><BR/>Ironically most people don't accept themselves, ever, regardless of gender. Then you add the unrealistic stereotypes and patriarchy kind of enforcing misogyny, it just gets really insane.<BR/><BR/>So yeah, people like that can be so hard to deal with, especially when they have severe mental health issues on top of everything else.<BR/><BR/>So a typical gender nazi is anything from the man hating, militant radical lesbian feminist I used to be, to some poor trans woman who jumps on everyone if they make the slightest mistake with pronouns, names, or references to thier life before transition or any number of a million other stupid things. It's like walking in a minefield, where the mines are so close together you dare not even breath, cause ever little thing can get them to ranting.<BR/><BR/>So yeah, gender nazi is for the folks obsessed with gender obviously. But really anyone can be so far outside the local reality that talking to them is like bleeding to death slowly. My little brother is like that. Paranoid, Delusional, Obsessive, and making it all worse, they are both so needy that it really is like being attacked by a vampire. So I've been forced to put healthy distance between myself and them.<BR/><BR/>Ha, self acceptance -- yeah she, they really have major problems with that. So yeah, makes it really hard.Samantha Shantihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-54117013442716407262009-03-10T11:26:00.000-04:002009-03-10T11:26:00.000-04:00I'm very confused.Gender nazi -- fabulous term, bu...I'm very confused.<BR/><BR/>Gender nazi -- fabulous term, but what exactly does it mean?<BR/><BR/>Isn't the first step in accepting others the often difficult step of accepting ourselves? Is this what she's having trouble with -- self-acceptance? People who can't do that are often the most exhausting people to deal with.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07802695378617927299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-18792262655082436832009-03-10T02:50:00.000-04:002009-03-10T02:50:00.000-04:00Yeah, it hurt, but I programmed my mail server to ...Yeah, it hurt, but I programmed my mail server to blog all her messages. I'll rest a bit better knowing that I'm not going to have to deal with the paranoid delusions, OCD, and bipolar madness from her anymore.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your vote of support Alan. You are a dear.Samantha Shantihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-28548725307399605272009-03-10T02:06:00.000-04:002009-03-10T02:06:00.000-04:00One of many reasons I've come to love you is that ...One of many reasons I've come to love you is that big beautiful heart you are so willing to share. I know it's aching now from having come to this decision...I'm sorry!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing it with so many of us!<BR/><BR/>alanalanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06013341654649926300noreply@blogger.com