tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post1828340119778550189..comments2022-11-21T03:50:05.720-05:00Comments on What a long strange trip it is!: What Does It Mean To Be A ManSamantha Shantihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-28253075643617547632009-11-08T16:54:46.824-05:002009-11-08T16:54:46.824-05:00I've never been a "great human being"...I've never been a "great human being", proven by the fact that I can't let Earl have that for an excuse...there was no excuse in this Universe for what he put you through!<br /><br />alanalanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06013341654649926300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-24287454877793667232009-11-02T00:30:31.492-05:002009-11-02T00:30:31.492-05:00You know Caroline, I've been pondering this a ...You know Caroline, I've been pondering this a bit, and I have to wonder at it too. Admittedly in my case the people who adored me then, still do, so I've been doubly blessed. I have to wonder too if it might have been my choice of friends. The same friend who pondered the possibility of being a lesbian also wondered if I chose my friends with some secret super power that let me see the one's who were going to stand by me. She also wondered if Earl hadn't been so bad to me at the end because he knew he was going to die soon and wanted it to hurt less for me. That somehow by pushing me away, and hurting me so badly, that I wouldn't mourn. Yeah, that worked so well.<br /><br />In the end my friend decided she couldn't be a Lesbian because she liked dick too much. Without thinking, I said, I like it too, just in me, not ON me. She nearly spewed sushi all over the living room. She's now happily married to a guy I haven't yet met, but I know he was vetted by the rest of our friends and family, so I'm not worried. <br /><br />I think we attract, in part, so much hate because in challenging our own notions of self, we cause others to do likewise. My friends are all amazing, and don't get lost in the details, but some people when faced with a similar bit of thought "OMG, I'm a Lesbian" or whatever, have this tendency to freak out. <br /><br />That my dear is directly related to some odd several thousand year old notions that have become part of the fabric of the socio-cultural construct we know as the patriarchy. Doesn't make a cup of sense, but it's the regrettably world we live in at the moment.Samantha Shantihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-4718931394832906732009-10-24T14:26:56.454-04:002009-10-24T14:26:56.454-04:00Samantha, I wrote a long post similar to this thou...Samantha, I wrote a long post similar to this though less eloquent then ditched it!<br /><br />Most of my wife's friends say that they would have got married if they could only have found someone like me. We are obviously so perfect it is little wonder we attract so much hate!<br /><br />Caroline xxxCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-84476181995696782662009-10-23T22:07:30.721-04:002009-10-23T22:07:30.721-04:00In some respects, I think you're right Lori. ...In some respects, I think you're right Lori. But it still feel like I've missed so much. I spent so much time working so hard, and have so little insight to bring. Plus so many people talk about seeing life from two sides, and I don't really have that. For me it was always one side. So does it make sense I feel slightly cheated?Samantha Shantihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586759980410037672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8347251.post-55750252619031000402009-10-22T23:14:17.783-04:002009-10-22T23:14:17.783-04:00I guess not knowing the answer is the best indicat...I guess not knowing the answer is the best indicator you would never supposed to really know, huh? Great thoughts!Lori Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01883850750657502492noreply@blogger.com